Testimonials from Alumni

“My experiences in the Wisconsin Empathy Project have been instrumental in my personal and professional development. In no other part of my curriculum was I challenged to reflect on how the experiences and beliefs of the person in front of me were intertwined with my own, and this exercise is something I continue to practice daily.” - David

“WEP serves as a great reminder that to be seen is to be loved. By opening my heart and mind to others, I can leave a substantial impact on someone's day just as much as they can have one on mine. WEP put me more in touch with the version of myself I always want to be, and I find myself viewing the world with a lot more hope than I once did.” - Jacqueline

“WEP was a unique and insightful experience to engage with my peers in an intimate yet still academically beneficial environment. It felt like an ice breaker in a way, but only so in the ways it broke down some barriers between my peers and me. A key takeaway for me was the way I learned it is okay to acknowledge and work with your own voice when interviewing a person. The total absence of bias in the narrative is nearly impossible, but I believe there is a power in acknowledging this. The trick is balancing that bias with the narrative being told. Hearing others' stories has more impact than sharing your own, I've learned. That doesn't mean your own is less significant or doesn't have a place in the conversation, but it does mean learning to understand time and place and the appropriate ways to incorporate your own narrative into that of another. WEP was integral in my understanding of this. 

When I was interviewed by a peer for WEP, I remember feeling as if their account of my story was an account of someone else. I don't believe I answered their questions as well as I could have, and I feel as if I painted a picture of a wildly different person. I believe this is a difficult aspect of empathy and a unique one in many ways. Empathy demands an understanding of the self, or at least the beginning of one. When I was in WEP, I was a freshman struggling with this concept of self-understanding. In hindsight, I do believe this interview taught me things about myself that I didn't already know. Although I initially didn't feel it represented me, I have learned to recognize some of the traits it shed light on. The voice wasn't mine, but my voice helped that voice to articulate some things about me that I am grateful for now understanding. In that way, being interviewed for WEP taught me to acknowledge and work with the walls I have put up around myself.” -Lilly

“Throughout the semester, WEP has broken me out of my comfort zone, both in interacting with strangers as well as more deeply interacting with people close to me as I push myself to understand them more. To me, it has meant growth in myself, stretching my boundaries, and being more present and aware in my own relationships. It has meant a lot to me, and I don't know how much of this growth I would have been able to do without WEP, or at least not as quickly.” - Robin

“WEP established a definition for empathy that helped me maintain my own sense of individuality among my interactions with others. My whole life, I’ve felt like a chameleon, showcasing and suppressing different aspects of my personality depending on who I’m around. WEP introduced me to the concept of self-empathy, giving me the tools to maintain my own self-identity among my interactions with others. The class gave me permission to agree or disagree with people without feeling like a bad person—it removed a layer of social validation I didn’t realize I was operating under. I’ve found so much more compassion and unity in my life free from societal pretenses—even among people I hadn’t considered before.” -Kate

“WEP has vastly changed how I deal with conversations, controversies, and conflict. Through the tactics and discussions throughout WEP, I have learned how to step outside of my body and view the situation from a neutral perspective with no emotions attached. This has allowed me to understand where the other person may be coming from, and realize that they could have ill intentions, but more than likely they have other variables that cause them to react or act in the way that they did. Overall, I feel more comfortable and at peace in my own mind and body just knowing that I can take a step back and now react too rash without considering all aspects of each scenario.” -Lizzie

“Being a part of the Wisconsin Empathy Project has given me the opportunity to expand my perspective both inside and outside of myself. When I began practicing empathy, I started to notice the ways that I limited myself and others to the constructs of my own understanding, rather than giving everyone the space to exist as people who have a whole world of other, different, and meaningful experiences. It is through interviewing my fellow community members that I have been able to broaden my perspectives and truly enjoy finding connections with the people I might have least expected. We are all interconnected, tied together by our innate humanness, and it has been a beautiful experience to find those connections and see empathy blossom within myself.” -Bailey

“I took a lot away from participating in the WEP class during my final semester. I just recently took some of the knowledge shared in those discussions and applied it to my graduate studies. I'm studying counseling psychology which includes learning how to facilitate group therapy. In a group processes class, we each got to take a turn facilitating a group and I used empathy as my topic. We talked about our perspectives on empathy and discussed its relevance to our personal and professional lives. 

Given my field, it is natural for empathy to come up all the time in my courses and it has been vastly beneficial to have a deeper understanding of empathy. I feel WEP helped me gain an understanding of my abilities and limitations when it comes to empathizing with others, something that I have watched many of my peers struggle with in starting down this career path. Further, it has made me more curious to learn about other's stories and helps me remember that each is unique and important.” - Zella

“Throughout our interview process, we engaged with people from various age groups and backgrounds. However, what consistently emerged for me was the shared desire to find someone willing to listen to our stories. This shared desire emphasized the importance of storytelling in empathy and connection. WEP has created an environment where every story is valued, enriching my college experience and allowing me to interact more easily with people.” - Aleyna

“Being a part of WEP has helped me dismantle the anxiety I face when it comes to speaking to people. In my ideal world, I am friends with everyone on the Earth, but one of the reasons that can't happen, among many others, is because I get nervous to talk to people. Joining WEP has helped me talk to more people, and thus feel more content in my life, by putting me in situations where I am forced to talk to people. But even more than that, AOU has taught me that any good conversation is formed on the basis of empathy. I get nervous to talk to people because I don't want to say the wrong thing. But if I put my focus during our conversation on empathetically listening and responding to what I hear, I find I no longer view those I talk with as cruel beings that are out to judge me, and more so as people who are just as vulnerable as I am.” - Ashley